The movie “The Secret” and Rhonda Byrnes’s series of books have been a source of inspiration to me. They forced me to look at my thoughts and the power they have on my outer world. The words of Matthew Brady also pushed me into this new habit of taking the reins of how I think and act, “thoughts are things. You want people to come sit at your bar? You declare that is what you want. No complaining or your bar will stay empty.” My dearest Matthew, I am eternally grateful for you and these magical, yet simple words, “thoughts are things”.
While some of you reading this may be familiar with the law of attraction and may have caught a few minutes of “The Secret”, there might be a little disappointment. You see, your initial desire and thought is indeed important, however, it is not like asking a genie. You don’t make a wish, and then “poof” your dream job, house, spouse, car, etc. will just manifest from thin air.
I had the synchronistic pleasure of finding a magical book in the library (I purchased my own copy immediately) titled, “The Universe Loves a Happy Ending” by Hans Andeweg. First of all, I recommend checking it out, because there is SO much great info. There’s a section in the book about manifestation. It does indeed start with a Wish, but in order to create that which you desire most (or don’t, be careful where your thoughts go), you must follow a wheel of twelve steps. He goes into more detail about how each half of the cycle works. It is half inner work, half expansive force. To explain it and connect it to my own personal story, I’m using my Integrative Wellness and Life Coaching certification as an example.
The list of steps, starting at the top of the wheel and rotating clockwise is:
Wish: Since becoming a massage therapist, working on my self-awareness and personal development, and practicing yoga frequently, I had the light-bulb go off in my mind that Life Coaching would not only be something I would be good at, I would actually love to get up every day to “work”. All of my archetypes (soon to be discussed in a future blog) would be satisfied: caregiver, athlete, intellectual, artist, advocate, and visionary. Transitioning into the next step…
Imagine: I took the bright wishing star from the crown of my head and put it in the front of my mind. I daydreamed and visualized (amazing practice) what kind of a coach I would be, where I would do my work, who my clients would be, what they needed help with, how I would reach and hemp them and why this was where I should be. I imagine now, a Skype appointment with a client from my laptop, the ocean in my background, really connecting and helping people all over the globe.
The key element, from my own experience and from hearing countless others who are successful, is believing you can do it. I believed, not only that it was something that could be done, that it was my purpose. When you find your purpose and believe in yourself, there’s really no stopping you. Before you start telling others about your thoughts and dreams, make sure you first believe you can do it. It’s all too easy to let naysayers in. Once you’ve established firm ground that this is what you’re doing, you know it’s possible and you’re ready to stand up for your beliefs, you can confidently proceed to the next step.
One of my favorite yoga instructors has inspired me so much! I love going to her classes and reading her posts online. She is also a spiritual life coach. They next step in the wheel is “Express”. Back in early spring, I expressed interest in life coaching to a few people including my fiancé and this instructor. I had mentioned it was something I had strongly considered, and most importantly, believed I could achieve and succeed in.
Research, following expression, started when I asked her how she became a coach. She explained that her path started with personal training, her yoga background and a desire to help others. With research into her own story, and like many other motivating people, her ability to work through at least one dark period in her life helped shape her into a wonderful guide to others. I looked online at different schools and trainings and had countless emails flood in from a “Health Coach’ group wanting me to sign up for their program. Some of their video ads would pop up on my YouTube feed, and while they were inspiring, they just did not resonate with me.
Plan: not knowing exactly which route I would take, I planned on becoming a coach! When it would happen, I wasn’t sure. I would, without really pushing or trying, notice myself showing alternative viewpoints to others, help them reframe their situation, used metaphors or words of encouragement. One defining event into my journey, was after a yoga class. I walked out with a fellow student and we talked about her desire to be a yoga instructor, followed by a rainbow of reasons why she thought she couldn’t, or that it was the “wrong time”. I reframed the situation with her, asking questions and playing out possibilities. Instead of believing her husband would be opposed to it, she decided it would not be in her best interest not to ask him. I reminded her that money can always be made, but passing up experiences is what kills our spirit. Long story short, she went for it and started a yoga path that made the most sense to her!
On the way to her first yoga class, as my fiancé was driving, I checked my email. I had a notification from Living Social that Life Coaching course was heavily discounted, but was time sensitive. I decided (this is the step after planning) that I need to jump on this offer! I just knew this was meant for me and I was supposed to see this. I thank the Universe/God all the time for this opportunity.
Although I had only had my massage therapy business running for a month or so, I knew I needed this course in my toolbox so I could help as many people as possible. I jumped! The step after decide is to ACT! Action is so important, and to be able to do it without hesitation will truly surprise you with the changes and growth you can make.
With the course purchased, I had to get to work because there was also a time limit on finishing the course. I had to persevere to remove myself from people and situations so that I could study. When it came time to do the assignments and test, I was diligent about working on it and doing my best. Persevere is the important step after act. I had to set boundaries with my fiancé, daughter and friends so that I could complete it. At times, it was extremely challenging, but I pushed forward and with my fingers crossed, turned my assignments and test in.
A few days later, I received (step 10) my email congratulating me! I did it; what a relief!
I sent back an email thanking them for the experience, thanked myself for doing something great and the Universe for the opportunity and the push. Step 11 is appreciation! When we push forward to reach our goals, we must stop and appreciate the journey. We must appreciate where we have been, where we are, and where we can go next. Taking time to appreciate what we are capable of will give us the momentum to strive for more.
The last (but not really, because it’s a cycle) step is Relax. As Hunter S. Thompson explained to one of his friends in a letter about life, not only should we swim, swim, swim to our goals, we need to take the time to float. What’s the point of working hard if you don’t stop to enjoy your efforts? Relaxing gives us an opportunity to listen to our body, our intuition, to hear what it is we should be doing next. Just as I finished up my certification, a 12-week transformation course for business opened up to ten people only. We had to turn in an application about our background, our fears and what we hoped to accomplish in our business. I was chosen! I am relaxing this week, letting ideas flow for my next steps and listening to my intuition as well as working on some inner work. Looking back, I’ve had many cycles and some overlapped in time, but they definitely followed these patterns. Nothing in life is linear, but that’s another topic to be discussed.
I hope that these steps:
Help you on your journey through life. Manifest the life of your dreams. It is possible. Just look at something great that you accomplished or acquired and connect the dots backwards. You’ll see that you have done this before. Now you’ll know what you need to do to achieve that next big dream.
Sometimes, it’s hard to see the big picture when we are in the frame. Let me help you as your tour guide as you create your most fulfilling life!
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