Lately, The topic of forgiveness has been on the forefront of my mind. With our past and future undeniably connected, forgiveness plays a major part. We cannot go forward, if we are still looking back. Our burdens from the past make it nearly impossible to move into the future we desire. We cannot become whole with feelings of stagnant and active anger, shame, guilt, remorse, or fear blocking the way.
Forgiveness, I have found, is a tricky subject. When you tell someone to try to forgive the person they believe has treated them unjustly, there’s typically some resistance. People find it hard to let go. They don’t want to excuse the other person for the wrongdoings they believe they were dealt. They may feel if they let go of the negative feelings, they lose grip of control. They feel if they forgive, they’re letting the other person off the hook, or that they’ll allow the behavior to continue.
The truth is, forgiveness is not for the other person. It is a gift to yourself. It doesn’t excuse the behavior of the other person, but it frees you from the burden and negative emotion attached to the event.
We also need to forgive ourselves. There are times we act in ways that are hurtful to ourselves and others. It’s letting go of the attachment to the past. It frees us from the shackles we place on ourselves so we can move forward. It is one of the most loving things we can do!
We are not our faults. Forgiveness is a gift of freedom and love to ourselves. It allows us to be open to the future and to let go of what no longer serves us.
“I forgive myself, I forgive everyone, I forgive the World”.